Isn't he a cutie? Moms and dads don't worry, your daughters will be safe and respected in his presence :)
My middle child, Elijah, is a sweet, compassionate, boy’s boy, and girl’s boy. He has a heart for people -no age, race, or gender matters. He just sees the person. He is so innocent and has an innate charm about him, people always compliment me on his demeanor and compassion-AND he is a cutie.
Just the proof of the girls chasing him is enough to back that up.
The other day I had to have a talk with his camp supervisor because at the park some admiring girls were chasing him, asking him if he wanted to be “boyfriend and girlfriend”. He wanted nothing to do with it all! He just wanted to run around and play. Well, they did not give up. They chased him all day even after counselors told them to stop. At one point, he was tackled to the ground by a boy, who was a friend of the girls, and the boy held Elijah down on the ground while the girls came up with their CELL phones and took pictures of Elijah! Innocent as the whole exchange may be. He was upset by it. He DID NOT like his picture being taken, let alone being held down on the ground! And those same factors got me upset.
The wonderful camp supervisor did see the problem just as I did, despite the fact is was not meant to harm. The aggressive behavior was inappropriate and unwanted. It was handled appropriately without causing any distress or embarrassment for anyone involved.
In life any unwanted behavior is considered harassment. Usually we think of it as a mean behavior such as bullying. But as much as that is true, over adoration can become harassment.
In ways, it is no different than paparazzi and celebrities. To invade a person's space aggressively just because they are good at their (entertainment) job and a person may feel they know them based on their life being on display; does not make it right. That's a simple case of adoration to the extreme. We as the public adore the characters they play or the person we see in interviews. But following someone around is stalking and dangerous. Now that is an extreme example but relevant in many ways.
Now don’t get me wrong. Games of “like” and “not like” happen often around kids and almost ALWAYS, it is truly innocent.
But as a child grows, they have so many feelings they don't know what to do with, so they look to their outside world: family, friends, or media on how to handle these feelings and how to care for another person. Unfortunately, not all the examples within reach of our children are good examples.
My families take on 10 year olds: It is not appropriate for a 10 year old to be "dating”, "holding hands", or "hanging out" (sitting and talking) with a girl he may or may not like.
They are too young and innocent to be worrying about affairs of the heart and loving anyone outside of their family! But not all families agree or frankly- CARE! Because the attention is considered “an affection”, “cute”, and other parents may think "Oh, poor him/her because they get attention, they are suffering." Some parents tend to ignore these situations. But that is also where bad behavior in some children can start to develop.
It is our job as parents to pay attention to our children and what they say, because if they are saying something; it is because it is important to THEM! Children want to feel respected, loved, and free from burdens-as they have the right to! Why must we treat them like they are older than they are? I do not want my child to grow up any faster than he is.
Our children have a voice. If we just sit and listen to those voices, we will learn a great deal about life and who they are. We get scarred and bruised from life as we grow; we forget to see the good in the world sometimes. Seeing life from an innocent child’s eyes can really open your eyes to how God sees the world.
We are all God’s children- brothers and sisters, and we will not always get along. We are the ultimate-family. But as long as we respect each other and their views, then, anything is possible with God involved.
We can converse with God and see the things he does in our lives that are for our highest good. Even tough situations, have a reason. But we must first, take the time to see our tough world from God’s point of view; a higher- bigger- long term place. It’s not easy sometimes. Growing up is never easy. Growing pains are inevitable. But with the loving hand of God we can move through the challenges in life.
So if you’re having trouble seeing a different view, then a simple NEW perspective is through the eyes and voice of a child. One who sees true LOVE in all (people) as God does.
Much Love and (New) Perspective.