I have been guilty of allowing my children to play with their electronics to YES:
Yep, there it is. I said it. I am not proud, but I know, I am not the only one!
I would LOVE to say my family reads ALL the time, plays outside, plays board games, and have meaningful conversations- all the time, all day long.
REALITY- let's face the facts that we live in a different generation and electronics are a part of our lives and even MORE our kids lives.
I do my best to balance and not go overboard on time they spend online or gaming. But I have my days and admit to this parenting “falter” of sometimes 1 hour turns into 3 or 4-especially if I’m being really productive.
THE RAMIFICATIONS- I do know that staring at a computer for too long can affect your vision. I had perfect 20/20 vision through school and after a YEAR of staring at a computer screen in bad lighting for 8 hours a day on the job; I noticed the street signs when I drove home were getting fuzzy and that driving at night was getting more difficult. So after an eye exam- I am now a permanent eyeglass wearer. And I only started on computers when I was 18!
So for my kids’ sake, I do my best to not allow this to happen to them but…those darn computer programmers! You have transformed the way our kids learn.
In schools, we are now pushing for I-Pads at each desk and desks that are touch pads. It is now the norm to refer kids to a website for more information or to practice on those MATH FACTS! Yes, in an effort to actually get them to enjoy and learn math facts! And admittedly, it has worked.
Kids today have such a higher standard of learning required of them that by the time they are home, the last thing my kids want to do is sit quietly and learn more!
I'm a product of the 80s, so when I think of computer games, I reflect back:
But today, we all know the controversy on how violent and graphic games have become but the other side is definitely how educational they are now.
Programmers are creating new worlds to help keep kids engaged. They have great games where the kids don’t even realize they are learning skills. Buying and selling virtual coins or credits to furnish their igloo or animal house. They must work for coins by shoveling snow or walking their virtual dog. Even the other day, since I grew up on a farm, my child asked me all about what makes up a farm.
Another parenting “falter”- Since we live in the middle of Los Angeles- I have not engaged him in the lifestyle I was raised in (sad face).
But he was educated quickly on hay, barns, alfalfa, and if it is good for an animal to be in the rain.
The point is; it is a fact of our lives that technology is here and we must embrace it. But let’s remember that we need to monitor their actions and limit the time. If you find a good balance between ON line and OFF line, in the end, all will benefit. And let’s not forget that applies to us adults too and all our electronics!
In today’s world, it is very refreshing and good to “disconnect” and find time to reflect inward for the answers. Google can’t tell you everything.
Q: When a child is put in timeout, what is the goal?
A: To reflect on their actions.
They are forced to be in silence to listen and understand their choices.
As adults, sitting in silence- meditating- serve the same purpose. When you can find those 10 minutes to reflect on your actions and listen to god’s guidance, then you will feel rejuvenated and see the BIGGER picture. The more you can connect with nature and listen for the answers, the more life will fall in place.
It is as simple as 10 minutes a day!
When life gets to be too much, we have the tendency to get withdrawn and close ourselves off from the world and literally shut the door on the outside world.
I made small steps during a very very difficult time in life by just sitting on the porch staring at the sky or a tree and just taking that break; SIMPLE, not much to ask. And over time it will nourish your soul and start to make you look at life differently because you are choosing to slow down and listen- listen to your soul’s needs, god, nature, and clear out all the mental chatter that we work with EVERYDAY in our highly electronic, evolved, opinionated world.
Find your soul serenity.
Much Love and Silence.