In life, you are faced with many challenges, some you pre-planned on the soul level before coming to this world, while others come about through the assistance of your free will. Regardless of the source of your challenges, you can benefit immensely from them; however, one of the hardest aspects of dealing with a challenge involves experiencing pain and the need to forgive someone or yourself.
Pain is a difficult emotion to handle because the ego wants to make you wallow in the misery and make you feel unworthy. It is not easy to overcome. As time passes, however, you become better at managing the emotions associated with the pain and you have that glimpse of hope that allows you to see a positive future. The only way to truly grab that future and be able to allow it to live to the fullest potential is to release anger and/or find forgiveness.
In many seemingly justified situations, it may be easier to continue to be upset with someone, but in the end, it takes so much energy to keep that pain around. Finding the strength to forgive someone that has wronged you truly is a more powerful way to use your amazing energy. Having the ability to perform the act of forgiveness with an honest love in your heart, is one of the most angelic gifts you can give YOURSELF and the person who has wronged you.
In this life with 7 billion people on the planet, there are many opportunities to give this gift.
In friendships, family, and relationships I have asked for forgiveness when I made a mistake. I have even given forgiveness to someone who wronged me and I don't even think they realize they did, just so I could acknowledge the pain and move forward. I have given forgiveness when it was asked. I have even forgiven myself for any role I played in the pain I felt, whether preplanned or not.
If you have the opportunity to talk with the person that caused the pain and they apologize, then on many levels it should make it easier to forgive them.
~But sometimes that interaction is not able to happen and you are left with questions of truly trying to understand why they did what they did?
~Or some pains against you may be so difficult that you may feel you could NEVER forgive that person. You may feel like a victim and that is understandable.
~Or the emotion attached to the person or situation may still be too fresh.
But as time passes, hopefully you can get to a place where YOU decide not to allow that person to have a hold on your life-especially if they are not around; or if you are ready to take your life back and release that pain!
God does not want his children to suffer. He provides us with an angelic support group, which ONLY knows LOVE, to push us along and remind us that we agreed to these challenges on this planet of free will. We agreed for karmic corrections and to the growth of our souls.
Through meditation, you can quiet the noise and hear/feel/sense/know that God is reaching to help you remember your history and therefore, understand more about this present life. A parent trying to help you understand WHY you had to go through what you did and WHY that person wronged you. You are presented with the information you need to see this life challenge from a different point of view.
Being able to forgive the people who we "shouldn't" or “can't” shows how strong you are, and can help you to better your life. It may take some time before you can truly forgive. The key to remember is that you may not want to “let them off the hook” by forgiving the person for their actions in this life, and that is fine, but you can forgive their soul for the role it played.
And while you are in that emotional act of forgiving their soul, you need to forgive your soul too for the role you played. This act will free your spirit of the burden you carry and open up the possibilities of a new direction in life. When you are ready you can give forgiveness via prayer to their subconscious. They will sense a relief even if they are not consciously aware of the gift you have given them.
A simple prayer, from page 72 of Doreen Virtue’s book, Chakra Clearing says to hold an image of that person in your mind, then say, “I forgive you and I release you. I hold no unforgiveness back. My forgiveness for you is total. I am free and you are free.” You should feel an immediate sense of release, of the negative energy between that person and you.
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I hope you allow yourself to be free and to see this world from a new perspective.
We are ALL from the same loving source and no matter what a person did to hurt you, on some much higher level, they truly had no desire to hurt you, they were just playing their role in your life in the lifetime.
And when you chose to join this game, that person agreed to play a part in your growth. It may have been a negative role that doesn't make sense now, but in the end if you walk away from it with having just the ability to forgive yourself and/or the person who wronged you, then you benefited from this challenge. You will have mastered an emotional hurdle.
You are a powerful being and should be ultimately proud of yourself. Know that you can eventually find joy by finding the positive in the situation and you can walk away having reached a new vibration.
Much Love and Forgiveness.