Today, you can find books on any subject. As a new parent, you try to read ALL the parenting books that supposedly prepare you for having a baby, and for the first few years of their life. I wish I had come across one with the title, “What to expect..as a Parent Volunteer at your kids school!”
To date, I have spent 8 years in elementary school - as a Parent. By the time my last one is in middle school, I will have a total of 10 years under the belt. During this time, I have had the wonderful opportunity to be the stay at home mom who gets to drop off and pick up their child each day. I have had the part time job that also gave me the opportunity to be with my kids in the afternoon; and currently I have the full time job outside of the house. All of these opportunities have provided me the ability to still volunteer at my children's school.
I have volunteered in many capacities, including being a member of the school booster clubs, a board member, on many committees every year, and as a parent in the classroom. Through these opportunities I have been blessed to have some wonderful friendships. Ones I will have for the rest of my life and ones, not so much.
Returning to school as a parent, has also provided many interesting lessons so far, and I'm sure many more to come.
As a parent, you experience a whole new mix of emotions that you have never experienced when your child goes to school.
all parents naturally want to protect their children from any pain or harm. However, now you have to allow your baby to feel these emotions when they happen so they can learn on their own. This learning in no way changes how difficult it is for a parent to watch their child feel pain. But hopefully, knowing that all challenges are divinely timed will allow for everyone to move past the pain faster.
These emotions and situations are fairly easy to handle if you can remember who you were before that precious baby came along, and made all rational thoughts disappear due to their just plain cuteness. Also, it is easier, if you can acknowledge the new lessons you are learning and incorporate them into life without fighting the changes.
Know your limits
When volunteering at your child's school, you will notice that there are many opportunities to help due to the lack of funding and having more students than resources. Many volunteers reenter the world of primary education enthusiastically using their skills to assist the school in providing the best learning environment for all students.
Volunteering brings together many different personalities with the same end goal of helping a cause. They are people with good hearts who are only paid, with a feeling of satisfaction. So remembering that each volunteer deserves respect and understanding, is important.
All parent volunteers have the same goal, to benefit the kids. So being respectful and courteous of others will accomplish putting the biggest smiles on the littlest of faces.
DAD volunteer (shout out)
They are needed and are amazing help. They are there for all the same good reasons- their kids. If they are kindly appreciated for what they bring to the table, then they will gladly come back.
A parent volunteer is the front line of how the community comes together to help raise the kids. The opportunities to make a difference are endless.
We will all have different experiences and life lessons as we repeat school with our children. Some challenges will be for the adults while most will be for our own children. We will protect them as best we can, but must remember they are living lives and have divinely timed challenges to help them grow.
Enjoy the time you spend volunteering; smile, be pliable and understanding, thank everyone you come in contact with and remember we all have a part in raising the next generation of teachers, doctors, lawyers, astronauts, and dreamers.
Much Love and Parent Volunteering.
All three of my kids are involved in their school’s Talent Show. They have been involved in it from day one, as kindergarteners. They have danced and sang in groups and even sang solo. Those 2 minutes feel like the longest 2 minutes of my life watching them on stage, and to me they are the bravest kids I know. I am not a major stage performer myself. I did the basic school productions as a kid, but that was it. My kids’ father is a stage and screen performer, so in some ways I suppose it is natural for them. Regardless, it is wonderful to see all three of them have a desire to perform and the courage to do it.
I began helping with the school talent show 6 years ago and have watched so many changes in these little kids. Our talent show is a full production: we have a theme, a time schedule, commercial skits with the kids, practice for a month and half, and take the time to turn an ordinary event into a learning lesson for the kids and guests watching it. It is run by parent volunteers, raises money for the arts program, and students participate voluntarily.
I have worked on all parts of the show, but primarily work as the Stage Manager handling the microphones, lights, curtain, and kid wrangling for years and I look forward to it each year! The ability to watch the kindergarteners, including my kids, go from definite stage fright to having amazing confidence after weeks of practice is a powerful transformation to watch. Over the years, the audience gets to see it from the point of their babies grinning ear to ear looking out beyond the stage lights for mom and dad; to growing into the 5th grader who belts the song like an adult. I am so honored to be a part of a confidence building opportunity for the future generation.
A "behind the curtain secret"; I cannot explain the joy and smiles the kids exude the second that curtain closes. It's a face of excitement I wish each parent could see, because those kids are so proud of themselves for what they just did. Behind the curtain we practice the silent clap and cheer, but you can hear the random "yeah!!" or "I did it!" if a microphone is still on or you’re in the front row.
Creative arts, in all forms, are the most amazing confidence building outlets for children and have been proven to increase test scores. I won't go into all the statistics; we've all heard them. I would, however, encourage anyone to fight the elimination of arts programs in elementary schools due to budget cuts.
Creativity is beneficial for us adults as well. Even if you don’t feel you are a natural in a specific area, by opening your mind up to creativity, you may be surprised by the positive results. I am a perfect example of this. I never wrote anything for publication before this blog. Before taking on this endeavor, I asked for guidance, and then stayed open for answers. God guided me to begin writing; because the situation with my daughter going to camp (see my 1st blog) was so overwhelming, I just needed an outlet. The phrase, "I am the mother...of a tween" came to me right after I dropped her off, and the urge to spread my voice about that situation nagged at me all day. The next day an ad for a writing course popped up, which I noticed but did not act on. Instead, I sat down and started writing and the words just came. I just wrote what was on my heart and it has now developed into these divinely guided writings.
I have even started drawing, which I had never done before. My previous drawings were the equivalent to a kindergartener's skills. But I had faith I could do it and now, I am simply blown away at the difference. Both skills completely formulated by faith, openness, and probably several lifetimes of practice I guess.
We are all creative. None of us are exactly alike in how we see something or present it. That is why we are here. So that each of our individual skills can be put to use to help push us all forward and discover different ways to work through the negativity.
We just have to nurture and believe in that creative gene. We all use our creative skills every day in many ways, such as how we solve a problem or the new idea that you came up with; it’s all creativity. When we produce art in any form, it has our own unique touch by divine guidance. Whether your art is writing, dance, painting, drawing, singing, acting, or problem solving, no one will do it the same as you.
When we feel we have no skill or that we don't even want to try, we should ask for divine assistance to show us where to begin and in what medium, God will help guide us. The challenge we face is to be open enough to recognize the divine promptings, then we will notice random things like that advertisement for drawing classes, or the writing course flyer we will find, or that random conversation about taking a dance class happens. Then we need to believe in ourselves and take action on those promptings. God will be there ready to help.
Much Love and Creativity.
Valentine’s Day is a tough time for many people. But for those who are lucky enough to know true love, it is a joyous time. Our universal desire is to know and feel a deep love from another person.
My 13 year old daughter is currently in the state of LOVE that revolves around a borderline obsessive fantasy world in relation to famous boys. She enjoys knowing every detail about her favorite boy band(s) right now. She seems to have no desire to like any boys at her school or boys she knows in general and frankly as a mom, I am just fine with that!
By having grown up in the Midwest and having the same Tween desires, I can easily say that most times you can get away with saying to your daughter, "Great you go ahead and like those boys.“ Because we as parents know there is a very small chance your daughter will ever meet them before she grows out of the obsessive phase. So I have no worries. However, I am reminded that we live in the city that everyone wants to be in, the hub of entertainment- Hollywood. So the likely hood of her actually meeting these boys is higher, and yes, she has met them.
Thanks to social media "Twitter" and "Instagram" to be specific, these tech savvy boys tweet when they come to town and the investigative Twitter fans ALWAYS figure out where the boys are staying, where they are recording, or what movie theatre they are at! And now thanks to social media, they have what is called "meet ups"; a time when the fans meet in a public place to just talk about these boys. While at a “meet up” and while waiting outside their hotel, my daughter has managed to meet these boys she seems to feel she knows so well. Luckily, these boys are very appreciative of the time these girls put into supporting them and are very sweet. One band she adores actually showed up at one “meet up”, said hi, and took the time to take pictures with each fan. They even brought pizza to the fans that day. My daughter also got a shout out on Twitter for a cute gift she gave one of the boys.
So now even with already meeting these dream boys of hers and giving them gifts, and having conversations with them, she is still in love with the possibility that her favorite boy will fall madly in love with her just like something right out of a romantic movie. It is very sweet. Her desire to be in love and feel the euphoria is something we all start to look for at a young age.
My son, the 11 year old 5th grader, was recently asked by his long time crush to be her Valentine. It made him so happy. He was on cloud 9 for days. He then picked out a Valentine gift, card, and packaged it all just for her. He has since asked me, if it is strange that she asked that of him. He was looking for the ok from me to go along with the feelings he was having.
Then the cutest thing happened while in the car with his buddy the other day. They had been discussing Valentine’s Day and after a discussion about the gifts they were giving to their respective Valentines, there was a change in subject and a 15 minute delay and out of nowhere, so innocently and happily after clearly thinking about his valentine again, my son goes, "It’s great how LOVE just warms your heart."
Oh my goodness. He was so sincere and sweet I couldn’t help but just smile and giggle to myself.
And even the 2nd graders get some puppy love on this holiday focused on LOVE. Below you will see a video that was filmed at our elementary school in Burbank for the Ellen Show. Our adorable friend Dylan ends up as the focus after admitting who his crush is. It’s so innocent and cute. Enjoy.
In this lifetime, we all strive for the same thing - to feel loved. Our desire to find that passionate love and experience the euphoria that comes when you are truly in love with someone is the closest we can get to remembering the unmatched true love we had before we came to earth; that genuine unconditional heartwarming love from God.
We are subconsciously searching for that same LOVE while here on Earth. And I hope that you open yourself up enough to feel that love. Everyone deserves to remember the love from home.
God is Love.
It is to all our benefits that we remember we are God’s children and THAT love will never sway. No matter how much we may stray while here, God is not out to judge us. He is so proud of our courage, desire, and strength to want to be a part of this world. He should be looked at as a parent with open arms, willing to forgive and love without a second thought.
He is aware we all have it hard down here and we are fighting hard for the benefit of the human race. We are the explorers for the rest of the universe. We are doing our jobs and God would never deny us love because we make a mistake.
Love is a universal commonality. It is the core of ALL human desires, to find the joy that love gives. If love could be put at the forefront of all things, then conflict would end and peace would take hold. It is the answer to unity around you and in turn, around the world, one ripple at a time.
Love is spread from one person to another by many forms:
Be a friend.
Be a companion.
Be an ear to listen.
Be the only smile someone gets today.
Be the person who holds the door for a stranger.
Be bold enough to tell someone how much they mean to you.
Be the person who tells the universe the type of person you want to be with.
Much Love and More Love.
I have come to recognize and believe in the concept that when a loved one has passed, they are still around us. I never really thought about this until my mother passed in 2012. I believed in angels and God and even energy in many variations. But recognizing that my mother was still going to be such a large part of my life after she passed was something that caught me off guard. And I mean by the fact that she truly makes her presence known here on earth- in my world, not just in my head with me thinking I am imagining it!
A spirit that has passed does have the ability to manipulate many things even in this dense negative plane. They can whisper in your ear, so that the random thought of them seems like it comes out of nowhere; they can manipulate electricity in signs, light bulbs, and computers; and they can give you that warm and fuzzy safe feeling you used to feel when you were in their presence in this life.
I have personally experienced this "wild" concept already on many occasions in the last year. This is what recently happened when my mom came to visit from heaven:
After working all day, it was time to celebrate my son’s 11th birthday. First I had to run home to get his cake so I could take it to his party. I got home, grabbed the cake and as I was leaving the house, I felt the sudden urge to stop before I walked out the door and ask out loud for my mom to go ahead of me and make sure everything turns out well. I then proceeded to shut the door and walk down the stairs. As I was opening the door to the alley, I noticed a light flashing down on the ground. My immediate thought was maybe someone got pulled over because; the light seemed to be coming from the street and resembled the light from a police car. Then as I opened the door more and actually stepped out onto the stairs, I realized that the light was coming from across the alley. It was a flickering light bulb on the building next door. I knew immediately that it was my mother letting me know she was there, because she was the first thing that came to mind in that moment.
A little later at my son’s party when he began opening his presents, one of his presents happened to be 11 lottery tickets (for turning 11). It did not occur to me until later at home the significance behind the lottery tickets.
When I was a child my mom would enter any sweepstakes she could. I remember that she would get this weekly listing of the second chance sweepstakes you could enter by sending in your address on a 3x5 card. I would be very thrilled to help her write our address on the 3x5 cards until my little hands could no longer.
Then the lottery caught her eye. She would play the Powerball and lottery tickets every chance she got. She was determined to win the lottery and not have to struggle anymore. Those tickets were the family fun. We scratched so many and she would always scratch them with a half hearted joke about winning while extending her arm with scratching coin in hand. She contributed quite a lot of money to the lottery over the years.
So when I got home from my son’s celebration and all the hosting was done, I had a moment and realized-- the lottery tickets, oh my gosh, I laughed, they were moms way of saying she was there with us. Because as neat of an idea as it was or simply a last minute decision to give as a present, it's not your traditional 11 year olds present. If you were in the convenience store and wanted to get a gift, wouldn't you normally just get them a goodie bag of a soda or Slurpee Gift Certificate, some chips or candy? But nope, my mom whispered in the parent’s ear and had them get the lottery tickets!
Since my family is based in the Midwest and we are in California the ability to spend many family events together is very limited. But this is another example of how mom lets me know she is at every special event now.
Even though a loved one passes, by all means don't think they are done! They will still keep tabs on your life and not miss a thing. They understand how difficult this world is and they now see the whole picture, free of the emotional and negative weights. They see you carry the pain, the unresolved answers, and emotional baggage. They are there to guide you, protect you, and help you to know you are loved. The feelings of love, warmth, and thinking of them are meant to comfort you and help you feel replenished so you can continue to complete your mission in this lifetime.
Leaving this world is just a transition to the spiritual life and to another job. The job becomes the great opportunity to heal and help the loved ones left behind to continue on their path and grow in the light of God.
For another example of loved ones letting us know they are around (my mom), read my blog post entitled "IATM.…who believes we can connect with God and his Angels."
Much Love and Spirit Connection.
We all have the capacity to create the best life we can. Most of us have been conditioned to believe that life happens (to us) and we can only change the things we put our minds to. The reality is that even if you don't feel you are intentionally making something happen with focused determination, it is still happening. Our subconscious works for us all the time. It knows our life plan and helps us to manifest things into happening even without a conscious decision being made on our part.
A perfect example of this happened in my life a few years ago when all 3 of my kids were under age 7. I had been getting upset for several months about how small my car was at the time. Whenever I would have to go somewhere, I would have all three kids crammed in car seats, in the back seat at the same time, with no spare room in between them. I could barely close the back doors! Most car rides would turn into slapping, yelling, and fighting sessions between the kids, due to lack of personal space they experienced.
I remember whining aloud several times about how I needed a bigger car! Nonetheless, my rational brain would kick in and say, “But this car is finally paid off!” I didn’t want to take on a new car note and had bad credit at the time, so I had no idea how I would get a new car.
It just so happened that one day I had a Dr.’s appt in the next town over. Normally I would drop off one child at school, then have the other two. Except on this day at their fathers work, it happened to be “Take your kids to work day”, so he took the younger two for the day.
When I left the Dr.’s office, I was very upset with the lack of answers I received from the doctor so much to the point that I had tears in my eyes as I left. With tears still active, I began driving and merging onto the 6 lane interstate; about 25' lay between me and the car in front of me when I glanced back to my left to see if I could merge. Four seconds later when I looked forward all the cars ahead of me had stopped. I slammed on my brakes, but it was too late. I hit the bumper of the car in front of me and he tapped the car in front of him, ugg! I was already upset with tears in my eyes and now an accident.
We all came out of the accident physically fine. And I was very grateful my kids were not with me. The other cars suffered minor damage, but ironically, mine was considered totaled. So even though my fears had prevented me from making a conscious effort of walking into a car dealership, I unconsciously was now forced to find a new car. I manifested it.
God knew my desire to have a bigger car and even though I did not possess the strength, resources and courage to make it happen on my own, God knew I needed it and forced it to take place. I was then blessed that within two weeks, someone actually came and purchased my “totaled” vehicle, so it was gone and I made money, surprise number one.
Then I walked into a dealership and was approved (even with my poor credit) for a certain amount of money to buy a car, surprise number two. On their lot, only 2 cars fell within my approved range and one of them was a 2 yr old, barely used rental minivan, perfect for 3 kids. It was newer than the car I had; my kids could lie down on the floor in the center and still not touch the back seat! So much room and it was a Chevy Uplander van on a Ford car lot, they wanted to get rid of it!
So I got what I needed and with ease. I may have started the manifesting by putting my desires out there via frustration, but God finished it far beyond my wildest dreams at that time. God intended no harm for me in that situation; I and the others walked away physically and financially fine.
This is one instance of many where if you put your intention out in the universe, let God know what you need, even if you don't have the strength to make it happen, God will make it happen for you.
God wants the best for us all. He works with us, not against us. You have to make your desires known though. Our lives are planned with goals to be met, but the wild card in all of it is free will. God is not a micro manager or helicopter parent. He trusts us to do what is right with full faith that he instilled in us the tools to get through this life and to make the best choices for ourselves and all humanity.
Free will gives us the ability to realize we do create our own life. We are not victims or puppets under his finger.
We are his children guided by a gentle hand. So, realizing you control your life and what gifts or challenges are brought to you is amazing. It's not ego and pride trying to control your life; it's you working with God to create your best life; a well rounded spirit.
We are here. We chose to be here. Make choices with the highest good intended and you will always be amazed at how God will meet you and take it beyond your wildest dreams.
Much Love and The Best Life Realized.
Image: Cloud Creations @WeHeartIt.com
I am still blessed to have two children who fully believe in Santa Claus and one on the fence who is fighting the reality with all she has.
This year as they wrote out their Christmas lists the theme became evident…they are getting older. My 10 year old's list consisted of 6 things- all electronic. The 13 year old was all about giving up on anyone being able to figure out her "style", so gift cards to every store she loves or the last one- just a visa gift card so she can save “Santa” time. And my baby, the 8 year old, chose to dig through the Toys R Us catalog and write down pretty much all the stuff she never knew she wanted until she opened that book.
Then this, the week before Christmas, we happened to walk through Macys and passed the Big Red Santa Mailbox; the place that in past Christmas seasons we would venture to so the kids could mail their letters to Santa.
As we walked by it, the panic began to set in for the 8 year old, “Mom we need to mail our letters, it's almost Christmas.”
“We will honey don't worry, I said.”
Then two days later, she said, “We haven't mailed our letters yet.”
My immediate response at that time was, admittedly first out of panic then out of laziness not wanting to battle mall traffic, “I already emailed them.”
Riley, “What? You can't email them.”
“Oh yes I can, I sent it to email@example.com”
Then a pause as I waited for that to register. I added, “It's modern times. Santa checks his email, no problem, he has your list.”
Silence filled the room.
Thinking to myself, “they bought it!” Crisis averted.
Today’s Santa and the kids are quite techy and so progress gives hope to the burnout Santa helpers who just can't keep up with the busyness around this time. So just email it!! www.northpole.com
The holiday season is a wonderful joyous time with friends and family. As we go through life and are blessed to have so many joyous holidays, there will be a few times where the holiday won’t go so smoothly. There will be years where a loved one will be missed or when times are tough and being creative is the theme for getting gifts. As we look around and see the happy moments of the season, for the ones who are experiencing hard times, the key is to recognize that this too shall pass. And that by having hope you will be able to hold your head up and eventually experience change.
This year has turned out to be the toughest year of my life emotionally, mentally, financially, and physically. Finding my spiritual purpose has also challenged me but has been what has helped me grow in my faith to learn more about who I am and what I believe. The low points of the last year were always balanced with a glimpse of hope that change would come and that would keep me going. This holiday is one of those years with so much change it makes it difficult to see past, but I know it will pass and it will be as it should be.
God has made sure I see the hope and this time it came in the shape of a gift. I received a beautiful keepsake box with an engraved dove holding an olive branch. A dove is a symbol of peace and hope like used in the story of Noah’s Ark. When it seemed there would be no end to the flood, he sent the dove out with hope to find land. The dove returned with a branch which symbolized that change was coming.
Hope can be found in the simplest forms during some of the most difficult times.
Hope is in the smile of a child.
Hope is in the compassion from a friend.
Hope is in the kindness of a stranger.
Hope is in feeling that we are all from the same source and have a common goal.
Hope is in that burst of emotion that helps you keep your eyes on the light at the end.
Hope is in the knowing that you will get through the tough times.
Hope is in giving and receiving with Love.
Much Love and Hope.
And a Merry Christmas to everyone!
It’s that time of year to say what we are thankful for and I am no exception this year.
2013 has been quite a year. Good for many but very difficult for so many others. This year has been a tough one for me and my family. I have learned a lot about myself through reflection due to several major life changing events that turned my world upside down.
One of those events was that after 17 years (15 married); sadly my marriage has come to an end. It was not a conclusion that was entered into easily or without a heavy heart. It was an ending, years in the making, without even realizing the end result until it was upon me. The realness of something you put your whole heart into just ending is a tough reality for anyone.
Any person who has been in love will fully understand that this person becomes your world and you only want to make them happy. But as life goes on and people grow, you begin to learn more about yourself and what you believe in, not just what your parents or teachers taught you. You discover life and find that it changes you. You learn to be true to your heart and have confidence in what you believe and these are the keys to assisting you on your life path. When you know in your heart you have done all you can to make a relationship work, then all you can do is move forward.
Moving forward takes you out of your comfort zone and the life you have known for many years. It is not an easy decision or challenge to take on. It may likely be the most difficult thing you will ever do and the times that you have to make it on your own or spend that quiet time alone reflecting, can be very challenging. However, have no doubt that through it all, God and his angels will be right there with you. You will not be left alone at all!
As you go through this phase, surrounding yourself with good, positive people will help you to get through till you are ready to stand on your own and fully move forward.
Since our family is so far away, I have been blessed to have an amazing group of friends that I consider family and have been there- more than ever- the last year and I am soo grateful for them. Also, with the loss of my mother at too young an age, these friends have been so compassionate, loving, and understanding through all the pain and tears. I could not have asked for a better support group.
Thank you to all the loving people who truly take the time to understand what another person is going through and listen to another’s pain and sorrow. Thank you to those who do not judge or push, just listen. Those lovely people are the ones who will help you move forward but only when they know you are ready. They allow you to go at your own pace. I thank those wonderful people in my life for the support you have shown in whatever way God has led you.
I want to acknowledge some friends that have been more than I could have ever asked for and I thank you for choosing to be in my life at this time. I will never forget what you have done for me and my family. Thank you: Kiersten, Naa, Kari, Tiffany, Barbara (the most amazing angelic boss ever!), Monica O, Karen C., Emma, Jodee, Anabelle, the school staffs, my children’s friends who have been so understanding and nice to them, my family, and John’s family.
I also want to thank Caroline, Elijah, and Riley for being the most amazing children through such a tough change. Your world has been tossed upside down and being the amazing angels you are, you still have a spirit that is loving, enduring, and adaptable. I thank you for helping me (the adult) to get through some days. I LOVE YOU and am honored to be your mother.
Thank you to all of you angels reading this. Thank you for being in this life at this time. This world would not be the same without you. And thank you to the loved ones who have passed but still make your presence of love known- Love you mom.
The last thank you is for John. I thank you for these three amazing beautiful loving children. I thank you for growing with me. I thank you for the love. I thank you and appreciate you for sharing 17 years of this lifetime with me. Love, Janine
Much Love and Thanks to all.
Photo by: Gisela Giardino
“You never know what you’re gonna get.” Forrest Gump
“Trick or Treat!” The phrase that each child of mine would try to remember to say as they stood at each doorway with puppy dog eyes wanting their next great surprise! Each doorway presented an anticipation of, “What will they give us?” Then as they turned and walked away from each house it was the brief description of what “free” candy they were just given:
“Yes! A full size sour patch.”
“Yes! She gave me, like, 3 pieces! Score!”
Or, “Yuck, (under their breath) I’m not sure what it was but you can have it (speaking to me).”
However, my kids did open their comments up to more than just focusing on the candy, which did break up the monotony.
I heard some:
“They were nice.” Referring to the sweet couple that tried to guess who my kids were dressed as.
“They had a cute dog.”
“They ran out of candy.”
“They were drinking.”
“They scared me.” Referring to the homeowners who were dressed up in scary costumes ready to entertain any recipients of their free candy.
“That house is nice,” literally, referring to the nice style of the home.
The ongoing assessment of each stop kept the night going for 3 hours and ½ a pillow case full of candy later. Yes, this year they all upped their game to pillowcases instead of Halloween bags. After the joy of a nice evening collecting free candy! Then came the serious stuff of trading. “Who wants…., going once, going twice, going, going, gone to mom.” Yes, if no one wanted to trade for the current offering, then the default winner was mom’s pile. And well, in the end, I did have my own bag full!
Like a box of chocolates, you never know what you get until you dive into a bag of random rejected candy that your kids dump on you at Halloween. Life is very similar in the fact that once you have entered this world, you have no road map in your hand telling you what you signed up for. You will have random situations and challenges come your way and you are to handle each one with all your attention and find the best moral path through each challenge.
The Life Path that you decided on with God has basic elements such as “I will be married twice, I will have 2 kids, I will live in three different homes, etc. etc. “ Ultimately, though, you decide daily what your life will be, it is truly ever changing based on your decisions you make every moment.
You will have the yucky challenges, like a bad chocolate, that you just want to spit out. For instance, you might have tried and tried to make a situation or a relationship work and then finally there just comes the time when you have to give up, realizing that to be able to move forward getting rid of the situation or person in your life is the only option. And that is not a bad thing. Accepting what you cannot change is difficult but necessary.
At the same time, we do still reach for and recognize the good chocolates in life, those moments and people that just put a smile on our faces and make the negativity of daily life bearable.
It is wonderful that we often strive for those moments. God’s will for us is that we maintain the ability to approach life with positivity through all situations and look for the highest good.
This amazing planet, Earth, is not a perfect world. It is an experiment in the use of negativity to help expand our growth. Negativity creates unique challenges and you have signed up to be a part of this grand experiment. You are an Angel with courage and strength to want to battle this unseen element. You should be proud of yourself for getting through the daily life on Earth.
Know that God only wants the best for you. Suffering for God is not his goal! His goal is to learn from us amazing brave Angels how to overcome challenges, to share love beyond boundaries, and for us to be angelic leaders on how to manage the negative. Yes, he knows all, but still continues to learn from his children, as we learn from ours, by seeing how each Angel handles each situation differently. It’s constant (life) learning.
We have each signed up for different challenges in our lives. The goal is to get through each challenge as best you can with your morals intact and the ability to say, you came, you worked hard, you survived, and you went home proud of the job you did.
We are all different in how we handle the same challenges, therefore we can relate to each other on the circumstances but in the end God feels, understands and sees how we each add our own unique touch to each challenge. So every individual soul is important!!!
So be proud of the pieces you bring to this game. Stand strong knowing you are important to this world. You are important to God and a future that will benefit from your courage!
Much Love and Uniqueness.
I very recently celebrated a major milestone birthday. We won’t mention which one, we will just let it roll on by for now.:) This birthday was significant for many personal reasons and the days preceding and after it turned out to be more emotional than I expected.
My birthday fell on a Friday so I ended up having a couple days of events to celebrate this milestone. (With that in mind, I do want to say thank you to my friends and family for making it a special time.) One of the events to celebrate this day was…..going to Red Lobster! Now laugh all you want but let me explain the significance.
I grew up on a farm in Kansas and so we always ate meat and potatoes. My mother on her birthday each year would want seafood and the ONLY place close was a Red Lobster. As a child I remember driving what felt like 2-3 hours to get to the restaurant but in reality, was only about 45 minutes. It was mom’s special request each year. This memory is significant because I lost my mother to Cancer in November 2012, at too young an age. So this year has been impacted by the pain of that loss, my first birthday without her.
So a few days before MY birthday, a TV commercial for Red Lobster came on at my home. I commented on how good it looked and wondered where in Los Angeles there would even be a R.L.? Well, my oldest child remembered my comment and when I received my birthday present from my kids, it was a Gift Card for dinner at Red Lobster!
The next day was an emotionally tough day and we ended it with my girls and I at R.L. for dinner (only 15 minutes away). When we walked in R.L. we were taken into a quaint room just inside the restaurant. I say room because it had an open doorway with nice wood round pillars on each side, 3 booths, and 3 tables. We pretty much had our own room.
As we enjoyed a lovely meal, the waiter inquired the reason for our visit. My daughter pointed out the celebration of MY birthday and the waiter replied with “Then we shall sing for you!” As the dessert was brought out and a lit candle was present to start the moment, the 6 waiters and waitresses sang the Happy Birthday song along with my children. I was calm, a little sad, happy, and comforted all at the same time. It was very nice. I even got a “Happy Birthday” from the lady at the table by the doorway that was leaving with her family.
As we were walking up to the door when we got home, out of the blue my 8 year old daughter goes:
“Mom, did you hear YOUR mom singing you Happy Birthday?”
With a taken back kind of tone but believing completely, I said,
“Awe, yes. Did you?”
She replied, “Yes!”
I said, “Did you see her?”
Then my baby said, “Yes, she was by the table over there by the doorway. You know the door with the wooden round things by the table where the mom sat down with her girls.”
She was describing exactly the entrance to the room we were in. So the minute she said this, I teared up and felt my mom’s presence. I now realize the calm loving feeling I felt during the singing was also her presence.
This is just a sample of the many things a child may say that shouldn't be ignored. Children are connected to God very strongly and that gives them the ability to see and feel spirits and angels. I am glad I listened to my daughter that day, she made the feeling and thoughts I was having make sense.
When a loved one leaves this physical world, it is natural and necessary to mourn the loss and only time will heal the pain. While you are on your path to healing know that your loved one is right there with you, more now than ever before! They are watching, protecting, and guiding you. They are there at every major moment in your life and they do their best to make it known!
They try to make their presence known in that random light that flickers, that feather that flew by out of nowhere, the song that came on that brings up a memory, the warmth and softness that comes over you, the high pitched ring in your ear, the papers that fell for no reason, the dream that involved them, or the fact that you think about your loved one with no prompting.
Your connection to God is always there; therefore your connection to your loved ones who have passed is as well. You are never alone and if you choose to trust and have faith in the unseen world then you will experience your connection to God get stronger.
Everyone has their beliefs and roles to play in this world; we could not exist without all the role players. Be as open as you feel you can, don’t condemn others, and respect their role on this planet.
Much Love and Connection.
My children have had a very tough few years and this last one was tougher than any other. They have managed to survive and thrive throughout the changes in our family life.
I am so proud of them and just amazed at how fast they bounce back. Being left with no other choice but to accept the reality of their new lives’, they could have completely acted out, but instead, they’ve managed the weight that many adults cannot handle. I am amazed and honored to be their mother!
Children end up being the innocent bystanders caught in the middle when a family runs into a rough patch like job losses, moves, separations, divorces, a loved one passing, or health issues in the family.
However, they are inherently blessed and connected to the wisdom of God. They know when you need that hug. They show us how to forgive instantly with complete honesty. They know what a simple smile can do to affect people no matter what their circumstances may be.
In most cases, children end up playing the role of the adult, when facing challenges. For instance, a child with a health issue, like Leukemia, could possibly end up encouraging everyone else! A child watches a parent go through an illness, and they become the main supporter to keep everyone going. And if they get caught in the middle of a family that is changing, divided, or apart, they become the grownups in many ways.
Children are the embodiment of God's pure Love. Watching how they treat others is an amazing view of how life should be handled in many instances.
Children and animals are the most innocent spirits. They see no race, no gender, or social divides. They look at all people as they are – the light and child of God.
They know this is a temporary home and while they are still fully connected they are to help remind us adults of God’s pure love.
Once pain has entered your life, you begin to develop your connection to this planet. But through our children it is simple to be reminded of God when you see those smiles, hear those first words, and feel those unconditional hugs.
They are the light of the world, love them, instruct them, and honor the spirits of God that they are.
Much Love and Innocence.